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Sunday, June 16, 2002

Feeling like and Adult

This is an answer to Angela's Question

I know this is not what I thought 30 would look like. Then again, when I was 25 I used to say that all my friends and I had the same flaw, we could not see ourselves five years in the future.

Things that make me feel like an adult:

-Writing checks for my bills every week
-Living on the other side of the country of my family
-Grocery shopping

Thinks that make me feel that I am not being adult enough

-My eatting habits
-The state of my apartment
-living in a studio apartment

As for Jeremy's questions,

What are the new difficulties that one faces in adulthood, and are there (ethical, sustainable) means of surmounting those difficulties?

I am not sure what the new difficulties are. My biggest is problem is getting involved with communites. The exisiting groups I run into do not seem to meet my needs or interests.

Are "alternative lifetyles" more likely to yield happiness than "traditional" lifestyles? If so, what are the difficulties involved with pursuing an alternative lifestyle, and what activities could counteract those difficulties?

I am not sure. Most "alternative lifestyles" work hard to build a self-selecting community within that lifestyle. I am not sure you could classify my life as eithe traditional or alternative right now.

Do adults need play, and does play provide more for an adult than simple regression?

I think that adults need to play more then we admit to. I think there are social aspect to play that we get few other places. I have to admit that sometimes playing leaves me empty and I want something more substaintinal. I guess I should look at the games I am playing.

What is the role of ritual in an adult life? Of learning?

I do not know the answers to either of these. But they are questions I ask myself all the time.

Who are the people who are thinking about these ideas? What are the helpful texts?

The only people I know thinking about this are my friends.

Labels: adult, Angela-la-la, Jerery P Bushnell, QA, Questions

- Rich, 1:00 AM |

Saturday, December 01, 2001

Welcome to the End of the Year

As an adult, December has always been the quickest month. It seems to be the month that flies by at the most amazing speed. I know it is because I put so many thing off. December moves like the last few hours of a Sunday night. I put things off all weekend and I put things off all year. Now I have to come to terms with the things that I have not gotten done. I will have to figure out if I will be able to get them done next year.

December makes me come to grips with the fact that I am an adult. When you are a child December seems to be a month that will never finish. It is a different world as an adult. Sometimes I wish I could have that level of pure joy that Christmas used to have. I know that cannot be because there is no one for me to share Christmas with. Even when I am going home for Christmas, it is not the same thing.

We have a whole other year to be looking forward to now.

Labels: adult, Christmas, December, new years, self

- Rich, 12:43 AM |

Saturday, November 24, 2001

What now

When I was young, Thanksgiving weekend was a big yard marker for me. It started the end of the year for me. I knew that year was coming to an end. I had a pretty good idea what the school year was going to be like. Thanksgiving is where I started to make my plan for the spring. I knew that the first third of the school year was done. It was usually downhill from Thanksgiving.

As an adult Thanksgiving does not mean the same thing. I am not working toward the next big summer vacation. My years seem to take on a whole different dimension. I lack this kind of structure. My years do not make sense in the same way. I miss that kind of structure that I had back in school.

Labels: adult, self, Thanksgiving, time

- Rich, 12:39 AM |

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